Sunday, October 8, 2017

A Night with the Street Angels of York

On Saturday night, I donned my warmest coats plus two scarves and made my way over to St. Columba's to volunteer with the Street Angels of York. On Friday and Saturday nights, the Street Angels York go out on the city centre streets and provide aid to those in need. I had emailed with them to set myself up on the October volunteer rota. Beyond the fact that they stayed out from 9:30 pm to 3 am I had no idea what it meant to provide aid to those on the streets.

The Street Angels are, in technicality, a Mission Partner of our church because they have been deemed by the St Columba's Foundation to be worthy of using our space free of charge and doing good "Christian" work in the community. But as far as I know, no one from my church has ever volunteered with them or has the slightest idea of what they do. So I decided I would do that.

However, I was very apprehensive for a few reasons. One, I had gotten no sleep the night before - maybe 5 hours or so (I like sleep and need a lot more than this to be functional). I was also coming off a super busy week and didn't want to be out as late as 3 am. I also thought that the Street Angels were solely there to provide aid to those who were drunk. I had heard someone at church tell me their volunteerism was directed solely to drunk people and not to help the homeless or anyone else. This made me feel like it was going to be a night of pulling recalcitrant drunk people up to their feet.

Originally another fear was that they did evangelizing to drunk people, but this was corrected when I arrived; someone did know enough to tell me that evangelizing to people is not part of their mission or practice at all. Phew.

I volunteered with Lisa, our Volunteer Leader, Paul, and Caroline. Lisa and Paul have been at it for a while but Caroline was only on her second or third run.

Lisa was so welcoming from the start and that gave me a warm, welcomed feeling, which was a great beginning to the night. She explained a lot as she and Paul rushed around and packed up our bags. We all got large orange coats that kept us so warm throughout the whole night. We prayed that God would help us help others in need on the streets (Street Angels, obviously from the name, is a Christian organization). And we set off!

Working with the Street Angels was, without a doubt, one of the most powerful and incredible experiences I've had since I've arrived here. It completely defied what I expected and was so much about accompaniment and service to others.

To start, we made our way down Micklegate to the River Ouse and crossed over. Already it was packed with people. We walked to the left, in the direction of a large shopping district, where we ended up talking to ages to homeless people. Nathan, Debbie, and Stewart have all been on the streets for a while. Debbie remembered Lisa, and after we had given them water we all chatted together for about half an hour.

The conversations we had were really emotional. Debbie is having a very hard time - more than just being homeless, which is hard enough - because her partner of 32 years just died. I surmised that they had lived together and then were homeless together and this was a very recently loss. She was devastated and kept asking why God wouldn't take her, too, because she didn't want to live without him. It was so sad. Lisa was so incredible at talking to her and providing comfort. I listened for a while and then ended up talking to Stewart.

Stewart told me all about his life. He is a heroin user who is trying to come clean and he told me all about this, as well as his recent trip to the dentist - a first in 14 years, and he was so happy about this. He told me proudly that he takes really good care of his teeth and showed me that he carries around a bottle of Listerine. He was given a backpack and a sleeping bag by the new mosque that opened in York not that long ago, and he had recently started going to church, so he shared his thoughts on faith.

At one point, he mentioned that he was 25 and I was so shocked. He is my age. What different lives we lead; how incredibly blessed I've been.

If you've ever worked with the homeless, elderly, or other disenfranchised people, you will understand when I say they have sometimes pressured speech. It's as if they need to get all their words out and someone is finally, finally listening, and they want to share a lot about their life story. I don't often share my life story to perfect strangers (or non-strangers for that matter) and it's not my natural instinct to be much of a talker with people outside my family. But when I meet the homeless I learn so much about them.

This goes back to my theory that the dominant human need we have is community. People need to be heard. They need to feel love. They need to feel like they matter. This need is as strong as the body's need for food, water, and sleep; it is a need more strong than the need for shelter or cleanliness or even medical attention sometimes.

When I think of privilege, my vision of this word is changing to include the access to people who will listen to you. Being lonely is its own poverty; the opposite is the knowledge that you will be heard. I feel so blessed that I am heard by so many (including here on this blog) - people value what I say. I always feel like people I love are there for me. What a privilege that is.

After a good long time, we got a call on our radio. A man was on the ground up by the theatre district and could we go assess and help until an ambulance arrived?

We left and made our way there. The man was on the ground and could respond, but only just. His friend had asked a nearby door staff to phone an ambulance after the man collapsed. They were middle-aged men wearing wedding bands who had been out with friends. At first we assumed too much alcohol, but his friend said he hadn't drunk much but he was diabetic. When the paramedics arrived, the man was loaded onto a stretcher and taken into the ambulance. What struck me was that we asked the friend if he needed us, and he said he'd like us to wait with him. It made me realize again that the human need for companionship in times of crisis is so strong.

The paramedics eventually had to take the man to the hospital to administer a more intense drug and the friend went with them. He thanked us and we went on our way. I can't remember exactly what happened next but in general a few things that happened were:


  • We gave out lots of flip flops and water bottles to drunk people, and water bottles and lollipops to homeless people. We talked to a lot of people - most of the time it was fun conversations with people who wanted to know what we were doing.
  • Lots of people wanted selfies with the four people in massive fluorescent coats.
  • We met a bunch of people who remembered the Street Angels. One remembered Lisa, which I thought was amazing, and told her, you literally saved my life! and went on to describe how she had gotten so drunk and all her friends left and Lisa took care of her and helped her into a taxi.
  • We did lots and lots of walking. Walking has been my number 1 hobby here and I love exploring the streets - this was a great way to do it!
  • We got called a few more times to go assess situations but sometimes it was sorted by the time we got there. Sometimes it was just offering a drink and making sure the carer(s) (usually there was one or more other less drunk people surrounding a wildly drunk person) were OK too.
  • We picked up a lot of glass bottles because those can be used in fights which are extremely common in York.



Around 12:30 am, we decided to go on break. We have keys to a church in the city centre called St. Martin's. It's an ancient cathedral next to a bunch of clubs. In front of the doorway was a girl and her friends clustered around her. She was sobbing and sobbing, lying on the ground in her friend's arms, and had apparently banged her head. We assessed to see if she needed further medical attention - she didn't - but the sad part was she was sharing things with her friends that had happened to her that were very difficult and she was super drunk and hysterical about it. Apparently the friends had had no idea and everyone was upset. We stayed with them until the girl's boyfriend came to take her home about twenty minutes later. I occasionally felt weird, as if we were being intrusive on this dramatic scene and also kind of awkward because it felt like we were part of this deep moment of sorrow and revelation as perfect strangers. But at the end one of the guys came up and thanked us profusely for sticking around and said he was really grateful we were there.

If you're wondering, never once did my teammates offer to pray or try to talk about God with people. Lots of drunk people on the streets recognized us or saw the name tags and would yell, drunkenly, "You're doing God's work, keep it up!" and other such obnoxious things. But I liked how this program is simply about companionship and sharing community with no pressure to be Christian or share faith. That can really turn people off, as I've experienced myself since I've been here.

After a break of tea and candy bars in the church, we headed back out. Paul and Lisa joked that you never knew what would happen after break - it could be dead quiet or it could be insane. Like stepping through the wardrobe in Narnia, they said, except you never knew where you'd end up!

The revelling was in full swing but we didn't get a ton of urgent calls. We continued to attend to people in need just with water and flip flops, and talk to those on the streets. We had a couple other long-term encounters, including one where we helped two hilarious very drunk ladies find their hotel. We saw Stewart a few times throughout the night again and talked to him again a bit.

Then as we were hoping to wind down, we walked back to the clubs near the train station to do a final sweep of the area. We were quickly approached (I guess those orange coats command authority or something) by a hysterical, mostly sober girl wearing a skimpy dress and freezing her butt off. Her friend, who we found out later was only 17, had wandered completely drunkenly off while the girl was waiting in line to get them both food at a takeaway shop. The girl looked around and realized her friend was gone, and other people at the shop told her she'd left. We looked around the immediate area, which were very crowded streets of drunk people getting food, with the girl, but there was no sign of this friend.

At the shop, the door staff said he'd not the seen friend in an hour and we radioed in for people to be on the lookout. The friend wasn't answering texts or calls, and apparently this was their first time going out together. The girl we met was super upset. She looked about 12 (I think she was probably actually only 17 herself, although she was careful not to mention this), and I could tell from past experiences that at that moment all she needed was some parental figures to help her survive the night. After more radioing, we took her to the cab stand and got her in a taxi, after we all decided that she needed to tell the girls' parents. The police and door staff were looking out, but it could be more serious (possibly a missing persons' report needed to be filed, for example)

That situation left me feeling really worried, because apparently there have been some sex attacks in York over the last few weeks late at night, but after we did all that we could, there was nothing for it. After a bit more, we packed in and went back to St. Columba's.

I left with the utmost respect for Lisa, Paul, and Caroline - what incredible Street Angels. They were so patient and kind to the people we met. No one ever made scornful comments about how drunk people were getting or made assumptions about anyone - they just wanted to help. I loved my team. Lisa especially was just so patient, kind, and capable in the most intense situations we encountered, but all of them were really great. Paul teased me about my accent and not wanting to wear a backpack, and I told him I'm American and it's in my DNA to be blunt and forthright. They also were impressed by my imitation of an English (non-Yorkshire) accent! Woohoo!

I went home, ate some toast because my stomach was rumbling after six hours of walking, and was asleep at 4 am.

The Street Angels completely defied what I'd heard/expected. Firstly, they do spend a lot of time talking to homeless people, which we did last night. They consider this an important part of their ministry to the community. Talking is just a big part of what they do in general, because that's often what people in crisis need. Secondly, they are connected with the police and pub/bar/club door staff through a radio system that every person wears to communicate with each other. This is augmented by the CCTV cameras set up in the city centre of York. Essentially no matter where you are you're being filmed, and the police use this to direct Street Angels to different areas. This reduces pressure on emergency services and also helps those in the situation find comfort. The police call on the Street Angels to go assist with many different situations - maybe to diffuse something or to provide comfort in another. They really rely on them and I think it's an amazing system.

I kept trying to ask my teammates in a roundabout way if York was a party town. It was just completely packed with some of the drunkest people I've ever seen in one space. Granted, I'm not a huge partier or drinker, as my friends will be the first to point out, but I've been out in Baltimore and it can be quite the scene, depending on where in the city you are. But it's NOTHING like York is. Every alleyway and street was absolutely crammed with people in varying states of drunkenness until 3 am, when we signed off. Many of these people come from out of town and get hotels, because York is a big city in Yorkshire and surrounded by lots of cute little villages where there seems to be nothing else to do at night besides eat steak and kidney pie and watch football in your local pub.

I don't often talk of my faith at home, but it is very deep and it is what guides me to service. And lately I've been asking God to guide me to two things: one, a way to help the homeless because there are SO many homeless people in York. And two, a way to help those who are lonely, because I feel so strongly that community is such a basic human need.

The Street Angels completely answered this prayer. Their goal is simply providing comfort and guidance in crisis experiences on the street (although lots of times they don't just experience crisis situations, just help with the average everyday drunk person who needs a taxi or water, which is good too). I was dreading it and parts of it did suck - I'm still exhausted the next day and my back and feet hurt - but it's nothing compared to the joy of providing companionship for those who so desperately need it. It is a practice in accompaniment, which is the guiding word of YAGM. I am planning to sign up for once-monthly shifts because it was such a good experience in practicing community. I can't wait for my next one!

Sunday, September 24, 2017

Turning 25 in England!

It's totally weird not to be home for birthday, possibly because I'm still the spoiled youngest child who gets treated like a birthday queen! I've had dinner with my family (usually spaghetti cooked by my dad) almost every year and we mark the turning of the clock to 5:55 pm. I got to see my wonderful cousin Erin, which was totally cool, and she treated me like a birthday queen. But I still feel a little sad not being in Baltimore for the actual day itself. I'm still a homebody at heart, as if you hadn't already known that!

BUT it's also totally amazing to think that a goal I set for myself years and years ago is being realized during my 25th year on earth. My goal to live in another country (for at least a year - that was a stipulation) is actually happening, and it just is amazing to me sometimes that it's happening in England, which has totally been a childhood obsession. I feel very, very blessed, and so while I'm sad not to be around my family tomorrow, I'm also grateful for the cool opportunity to be here in York, and grateful for the amount of support I have from those I love. It's bittersweet.

I'll turn 25 on September 25th, which makes this my Golden Year (as a Golden)! And 25 is five multiples of five, which is my lucky number, because I was born at 5:55 pm 25 years ago tomorrow. Fives, as you can tell, have a special place in my heart, and I am hoping this year is beautiful and special too.

Here are my resolutions for my 25th year:


1. Have more fun.


2. Live in the present!


3. Practice kindness to myself and others


4. Improve my mental health + share my story


5. Read good books, salsa dance, and play piano

More about these:

1. I tend to live a life of "shoulds" - I should be doing this, that, etc - and since I'm a Type-A doer, I always end up doing what I say I should. I should get this email sent, I should apply to this opportunity, I should run this errand. Even fun stuff turns into "shoulds". I should cook this healthy things for dinner, I should go for a run. That's such a BORING and annoying way to live. This year, I want to have more fun and let go of the shoulds. There's only one SHOULD for this year: I SHOULD have more fun.

2. I'm living in England. How cool is that?! It's sooo cool! And I so want to enjoy it. I want to grow and serve others and help my community. York is amazing but it also has a lot of need. I want to love all that there is to love about my new adopted home, to learn about ways to make the world better. And when I look back, I don't want to realize I spent more time worrying about the future or past, or checking my phone, or thinking about my life beyond this place. All that will come when it comes. I want to spend this year enjoying York, getting to know my host community, and serving those in need.

3. I like to think I'm a fairly nice person, but I also can be impatient, judgmental, and rude, which makes others unhappy. I do this even to the people I love most in the world. And I just had an epiphany recently that I'm also really judgmental of myself, sometimes constantly throughout the day. It's exhausting and unpleasant to always have a stream of negative self-talk and after my lightbulb moment, I thought, why do I worry so much about being kind to people if I'm not kind to myself too? I don't want to carry mean thoughts with me for the next 25 years! I want others to be happy because of me, and I want to be happy! This year, I'm working on being kinder to myself and to others - for me, for you, for all those I love.

4. Mental health is just like physical health - it is always a work in progress. I feel the need to work harder at sitting with my uncomfortable, anxious thoughts and pulling myself out of the rabbit hole that is my worried mind. I plan to read, meditate, talk to people (maybe a therapist if that's in the cards for this year realistically), and practice yoga, all of which soothe my soul. I also want to share more about my mental health journey. I've been journaling a lot about that in the hopes that will coalesce into a piece that will be shareable. Because of my recent experiences with Peace Corps, I really want everyone to know how important it is to be open and to de-stigmatize mental health struggles. 

On a personal level, I'm so grateful to have the resources I need to live a happier life - I feel grateful every day for my privilege of being able to see a therapist, talk to friends and family, and do whatever it is I need to feel better. It truly has improved my quality of life beyond all measure! Because of this. it's become really important to me that everyone has the opportunity to get the help they need and to know their mental health is as important as their physical health, and this is one of the foundation reasons I want to be a social worker. I plan to share more of my story and it is one my most impassioned goals in life that everyone, all over the globe, gets the mental health care they need.

5. I love to read - this year I'm not going to read the boring stuff I "should" but all the awesome books I love - historical fiction, detective stories, books about food and social justice, and children's literature. I love to salsa dance, it's my new favorite hobby (after yoga) after I took a crazy fun class this summer. And I love music and have always wanted to re-learn how to play the piano. Time for hobbies and FUN stuff. As I grow in my ability to serve others, it's time to grow in my ability to serve my soul. And my soul loves music, good books, and dancing!

If you want to do give me a birthday present from afar, send me (by email, message, text) five things. This can be five things about you, five reasons you're happy today, five foods you love, five things that are most important to you, five memories you have of us together - anything! I want an excuse to hear from the people I love and I want to know what five things are important to YOU!


On my mind....
My family! Many of whom sent me gifts or have already started hyping up my birthday. I love you all!!

Tuesday, September 12, 2017

September Newsletter!

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Friday, September 8, 2017

Orientation, Round 2!

Hello! It's only been a little over a week since I last updated the blog but it feels like a lifetime. Lots has happened, both on a global scale and on a personal level. After officially starting work on the 30th, I worked a few hours over the next several days and continued to meet Yorkians and settle in.

On September 4th, I left York and hopped on a train to make my way to Leeds. Once in Leeds, I met up with some fellow YAGMs and we took a short metro ride into Headingly, which is a neighborhood outside of Leeds. Once in Headingly, we got ourselves hopelessly lost and then finally found our way to the  Leeds Beckett University.


Why did I get to spend four days on this idyllic campus? This was Orientation, Round 2! UK YAGMs are unique in our country structure. Most other country programs (i.e. Rwanda, Senegal, Jerusalem/West Bank, etc) have a country connection with the Lutheran church of that nation. Therefore they spend the first 3-4 weeks in-country with their fellow YAGMs learning the language and adjusting the culture.


In the UK, however, which was the first country program of YAGM, we are connected with a Christian volunteering program called Time for God. This program places volunteers from all over the world into the UK to volunteer, and places UK volunteers in other countries. Most placements are churches or faith-based nonprofits, but any organization can apply for a volunteer. Us YAGMs start at our sites right away, and then meet later on for a 3-4 day orientation with Time for God and the other volunteers in the program.

A note on Time for God: 

When I initially learned of the connection to Time for God, I was nervous because the name sounds more evangelical and Christian-focused than I knew YAGM to be. I'm a Christian, that's not what makes me nervous. But if you know me at all, you know I hate the idea of telling anyone what to believe in terms of religion (although I'm very happy to get on my soapbox if you don't agree with me politically or on social justice matters). I was worried that Time for God, by virtue of its name, emphasized "spreading the good news" and all that... stuff.

It doesn't. Time for God is a pretty charismatic Christian group, meaning they worship in a more contemporary style (whereas many of my fellow YAGM and I are more familiar/comfortable with the traditional style of the ELCA), but they are not in the business of telling others what to believe. They just believe in their volunteers serving in a faith-based context and using their volunteer time to explore their faith and grow their relationship with God.

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So anyway, the Orientation was a lot of fun and very refreshing. I felt nervous about leaving York as I was just settling in, but getting away was actually really good for me to remind myself of the big picture of volunteering this year. TFG Orientation started with an intro session on Monday night and then had dinner together. Our seats were assigned, which ruined The Plan. The Plan was that the YAGM volunteers would all hang out with  each other as much as humanly possible over the four days in Leeds (we like each other a lot, ok?). We didn't think we'd care about being friends with the other volunteers, who hail from Germany, Austria, Hungary, Uganda, and South Korea.

In fact, having seats assigned for dinner was a great ice-breaker. We surprised ourselves by ending up making great friends with the other volunteers from all over the world almost immediately. There were only 28 volunteers total. Thus The Plan changed and grew to include the entire group, and this made Orientation a fantastic and rich experience. I chatted with my new German friends about public transportation in Germany, a new Hungarian friend about British history, and a friend from Uganda about his job as a radio announcer at home. It was so cool!

We had several informational sessions on Tuesday. During our break, I walked with Alison, Annie, and Jasmine, three fellow YAGMs, to Kirkstall Abbey. This is an amazing old ruined abbey in a beautiful park. It was a long walk but so worth it!


Luckily, this picture is blurry so you can't see the "No Climbing on the Ruins" sign to the right.





Wednesday was the most fun day. On this day, in our small groups, we went out into the city of Leeds and had a treasure hunt! My small group was pretty multi-national - two Germans, a Ugandan, two Hungarians, and me. I LOVED small group, we had a lot of fun together and had a really successful hunt.

We had to take pictures at various structures around Leeds.


A giant chess board where we posed as chess pieces (outside the visitor information center!)
The first Marks and Spencer stall, located in Kirkgate Market! It opened in 1884. 


We were requested to take a photo with any willing strangers in the Leeds Corn Exchange... we did indeed make friends!

The Leeds Corn Exchange building! So beautiful. 

Wednesday we did skits in our small groups on a facet of British culture. Ours was food. We served tea and had a quiz show asking the others to guess what dish we were cluing them into. Can you guess my quiz?:

1. It's a dairy product
2. It's often used with jam and scones
3. It's made with a process of heating and cooling

(Shantonu, I hope you're getting this!)

For the answer, see the end of this post :)

On Thursday, we all said goodbye to our new friends and headed home. Although we definitely hadn't succeeded in The Plan, I think we were all quite happy with the new relationships we had formed and were excited to get to know such great people from all over the world. We also did get to spend more time together as a YAGM group (and can't wait for October when we'll ALL get to be together!). One of my favorite parts of Orientation was learning more about the other volunteers' home countries and talking about current events while hearing their perspectives'.

Shoutouts: 

To the Dreamers. There's a lot of heavy stuff I could say about that, but instead I'll leave you with something light...

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Quiz answer: Clotted cream (This is mine and Shantonu's favorite British food!)